How To Sexually Satisfy Handicapped Clients

How To Sexually Satisfy Clients with Disabilities

Some will be able to do more than others and some will need special equipment. Some will be comfortable with themselves and some will not. Here is where you have to decide what you are comfortable with and what you are ready to offer. Offering services to persons with disabilities means understanding their needs and being able to tailor your work to them. Here we have important information to consider.

First Things First: Education

Once you figure out that you may want to start offering services to people with disabilities, you need to start educating yourself. Not all disabilities are the same. While some people have a partial disability, others are fully unable to move from the waist down or even from the neck down. There are ways to deal with each of these. Before you even offer the services, make sure you are ready to do so by educating yourself.

You can start your research online with articles and research studies. These can become heavy, but what you will get from them is invaluable. Then you can watch documentaries and interviews with both people with disabilities and medical specialists. These can be found easily online these days and quick research will yield a ton of results.

Another option for education is to look for a sex therapist and see what you can learn from them. They can be found online quite a lot, but in some areas, classes are available to learn from professionals and see how to mix the physical with the psychological in what you do with disabled clients. From all this information, see what you are comfortable with as working with handicapped clients is something that is not for everyone. You will need to be absolutely comfortable with the work and what needs to be done as well as with what could happen.

Challenges can arise from many different disabilities and they vary as much as the people you will encounter. Some will not be able to perform at all while others will be very quickly done. The important thing here is to satisfy them and make them happy. The happy ending, so to say, is not the only goal for people with disabilities looking for a partner. Oftentimes, like anyone else, they look for other things like companionship and a temporary cure for loneliness. Some may even just be looking for someone to cuddle them without judgment. Your offerings will need to be adjusted for each client. You will also learn a lot about humanity through this and will learn a ton once you start taking handicapped client appointments directly from your new clients.

Listen And Ask Questions

Once you have educated yourself and know you want to offer services for people with disabilities, announce your offerings on your listings and go from there. This means listing that you are friendly to people with disabilities and special needs and understanding that for them, your usual offerings may not work. Once you get a contact for such a booking, things really start. The special service here, at the beginning of the contact, is to listen. Listen to what they are saying, but also to what they are not saying. Ask questions if you are not sure of something but remain kind and nice.

People with disabilities may have different levels of acceptance of their own situation. Those born with it oftentimes are very used to it by the time they become adults while those who have recently become disabled may be trying to navigate to their new reality as best they can and they may not really know what to expect of themselves while still wanting to be sexually active. Some may also be contacting you to get some help figuring out what works and what doesn't for them. Listen to their requests, see what you are comfortable with and go from there.

Most of these clients will be very understanding of limitations, but they are also deserving of respect and your understanding. Once your appointment starts, be ready to adapt, listen to what they are telling you, and pay attention to what they are showing you. They may be saying they want something in particular, but may not be comfortable or physically able to do that specific thing. To make the appointment flow well, you will need to have 100% of your attention on them and be able to deflect things before they happen.

If, for example, a client cannot quite get hard right away, move their attention to something else. It might take a long considering that a lot of disabilities come with nerve damage and sensitivity issues. Take your time and adjust to their pace, to what they need. This is something that also needs to be considered at booking so that you can schedule them enough time. Be patient with them and they will teach you a lot while you give them what they are looking for.

Let Them Lead Or Tell You What To Do

Once again, listening is key here. They may show you things, they may tell you things, or they may simply react to things. You have to be very aware of what they are expressing and use that to adjust your services. Once again, this is a discussion that you need to have with your clients and is of utmost importance here as they may function very differently than you.

Newly disabled clients may not know how to express their needs for their new body. They may need a bit more help and may not know how to lead. These clients may not be able to fully lead, but they may still feel the need to do that This is where a special balance is required where you lead but let them decide on what and let them feel like they are in charge. You've done this with other clients before and most surely know how to achieve that delicate balance. Things are a bit different here as it's not necessarily a powerplay at all because it's more of a necessity. However, it can also be a powerplay as a lot of people with disabilities feel like they have no power or control over their lives.

This is something that needs to be assessed with each client to see what works best for them. Once again, communication is crucial and it needs to be good from the very start. See what they want, see what they need, and go from there. Then, consider the evolution of things while with them and adapt as often as you need. This will ensure a successful appointment and most likely assure you a return client who will love what you do and value your work to a level many would not.

Don't Be Afraid To Try New Things

Like with any new client, new things will be on the table. Now, will they be expected due to preparation for the appointment or will they be potentially very surprising? Only time will tell here. It may sound cheesy, but that is the truth here.

With disabilities, getting to the appointment alone could be a new thing. If you are an outcall escort, you may very well arrive at an apartment or house that has been adapted to the needs of the resident, which can mean lower or higher beds, couches, toilets, walk-in showers with bars for assistance, an adapted access ramp, etc. You will see many unusual things here and you need to be ready for them.

Once with the customer, either on an outcall or an incall, things could get a bit complicated physically, so new things are often the way to go. As some will be using wheelchairs, you may end up sitting in a lap on the chair or even using the chair as a prop to make intercourse work for your client. Your client may need help moving to the bed, whether they are chair-bound or not, and they may need you to do most of the work. These aspects are easy to expect and easy to work around. There are other aspects that are more difficult to work around and you will need to plan for them. Some clients may not be able to have sex in the regular, most expected sense of the word. They may be looking for something a bit different. Here it's important to remember that sex is not just the act of penetration and may include many other parts of the body as well as the mind. Consider including a nice striptease to get things started and a lot of touching of other parts.

Some clients may be able to achieve orgasm but not in the same way as most people, so you will need to adapt to what works for them. Then there are some clients that will be contacting you because they want to prove to themselves that they can still please a woman. These clients may just want to play with a female body and give you orgasm, so this could be a really fun time for you as long as you are comfortable with it and willing to go with the flow. These clients may not have functional sexual organs, but that doesn't mean they don't want to please and prove they still can. Help them use their other body parts, help them feel like they are still very much capable.

Be Ready To Do The Bulk Of The Work

This may sound like something obvious, but you may end up having to do most of the work between the two of you. From how you approach them to everything else. There are things that they may want to do but can't so you will need to take the reigns of this and sometimes, do so while still letting them lead on all fronts. This where the above-mentioned balance is very important. Let them lead or lead if that is what they want while doing most of the work. Their physical limitations and disabilities often cause them to be unable to do some things in the bedroom, so you will need to do all of these things to make the appointment successful.

Attachment And How To Deal With It

You may want to spend the time to wind the appointment down at the end and give them a sort of debriefing so that they can make sense of their feelings before you leave. This is something you may not be used to and it will take some time to get good at it, but it's something your clients will be thankful for. Give them the time to wind down with you instead of leaving right away and you may very well earn yourself that extra connection and a brand new regular client.

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